Part 1 (of 2): Benefits of De-accessioning
For many people, downsizing, de-accessioning, and letting go is emotionally difficult. I think this has far less to do with
discarding old clothes and far more to do with emotionally wrenching reasons that
often prompt the work, such as the death of
a loved one, divorce, ill health, loss
of a job or income, or even “empty nest” syndrome. Psychologists and doctors recommend NOT
making major decisions at such times because it is so stressful (and because
the resulting choices may be ill advised or regretted), but unfortunately, it
is often those crises that REQUIRE rapid decision making by people who haven’t
de-accessioned beforehand.
When NOT coupled with such wrenching associations, shedding stuff can
be liberating and energizing, You may make money, free up time/money/space for activities you value, or discover that you can comfortably live within far fewer (and cheaper) square feet.
If you find the prospect of purging all those overstuffed rooms
and closets daunting, this two part article can help.
The first part lists several numerous benefits of
de-accessioning. The second part lists
helpful hints for making the act of de-accessioning faster, easier, and even,
potentially fun (there are hints in the first section, too). Both have labeled sections for easy navigation
and some real life examples.
Good luck to you! Any
additional suggestions of your own?
Please let me know!
Part 1: The benefits of de-accessioning
Selfish
self-fulfillment:
I have moved 16 times as an adult. One of the advantages of moving is reviewing
what I value. What do I own that I really
like to wear, read, watch, listen to, and what just “isn’t me” anymore. Don’t pack and move things that are “no
longer you.” Give them to friends,
relatives, consignment shops or charities. People can use and enjoy them! By saying goodbye to “been there, done that” hobbies and life choices,
you make physical, psychic, and financial room for what you really do
like. Sometimes you want lower expenses
and less space. Done. Other times, you free up that hall closet for
the accoutrements of your newest enthusiasm.
No more mini-skirts and high heels? -Gone. Instead, roller blades. No more costume balls? No more seasonal decorating? Instead, a travel budget. One of the hidden joys of reviewing and
selecting among what you have is rediscovering that favorite novel or CD
previously hidden in a neglected pile.
Let others enjoy the rest.
Make better use of
existing space:
A year after two friends moved into new homes, one friend
couldn’t even get into her office and another into her art studio, because
those rooms had been stuffed to the gills with boxes of miscellaneous
stuff. The task seemed so monumental, that
each woman felt stuck and then guilty about being stuck. After we cleared out what didn’t belong, and
organized the rooms for their intended purposes, both women reported feeling happier
and more energized. They became productive
in those spaces.
Another woman had bought a larger and more expensive house than
her husband and she needed due to the expectation of frequent visits by young
adult children who rarely came. Visiting
that empty wing of the house triggered feelings of sadness and resentment. So, we had two conversations. One was about what she would do with the
extra money if she sold the house and bought a smaller one. Second, if she decided to stay, we talked
about ways she could re-purpose those unused rooms and spaces. One idea was a hobby room for her husband
(which had the advantage of consolidating items strewn throughout the house),
another was a “staging area” for items she planned to give away or sell on
E-Bay and Craig’s List. In these ways,
she would empower the people who DID live in the house, not feel held hostage
by those who didn’t visit.
My parents had so much stuff crammed into each kitchen
drawer that some wouldn’t open all the way to reveal what they contained! As a result, my mom would buy yet another
left handed melon baller or whatever she couldn’t find. I cleared out 7 - gallon bags of duplicates BEYOND
two each (of can openers, whisks, vegetable peelers, kitchen scissors, etc). I didn’t throw anything away, in case they
really liked that fourth mushroom scrubber best, but I stored the bags of
extras in the back hall closet.
Suddenly, the drawers are safer and more user friendly for any cook
rummaging around for an appropriate tool.
(The bags have remained, untouched, in the
back hall for two years now).
My father-in-law had big, bulky "pseudo-antique, country" furniture that he was sure was valuable, but that he didn't use - they were in his basement and garage. With a little encouragement, he schlepped a few to various consignment shops. Reality check: they didn't sell. So he moved them to another shop. finally, he gave them away. I asked him how much he paid for one of them. The price was $75, 50 years ago. He surely spent far more than that moving these bulky pieces from garage to basement to garage!
My father-in-law had big, bulky "pseudo-antique, country" furniture that he was sure was valuable, but that he didn't use - they were in his basement and garage. With a little encouragement, he schlepped a few to various consignment shops. Reality check: they didn't sell. So he moved them to another shop. finally, he gave them away. I asked him how much he paid for one of them. The price was $75, 50 years ago. He surely spent far more than that moving these bulky pieces from garage to basement to garage!
Get rid of bad karma:
I felt great relief
giving away attractive items that I didn’t use or wear because of negative
associations I didn’t want to think of anymore, but did… every time I saw that
item. Maybe it reminded me of a person I
didn’t like or a job I hated or a past event with a sadness attached. Giving these nice items to others freed me
from those reminders and also brought pleasure, without “bad karma,” to the
recipient.
Some people retain
clothes several sizes too small or exercise equipment they never use or other
products with “should” messages attached (like “I should make homemade bread
with that machine I bought”). Why? Keeping such things just makes them feel fat
and slothful. Give yourself a
deadline. Tape that date on those
items. If you don’t lose that weight or use
that equipment by your designated date, give or sell them to others who will
value them more than you obviously do. You will feel relieved and gain space for
other purposes.
Planned obsolescence:
If you have broken electronic
items, stop saying, “I’ll get it fixed one day.” Assess whether you even want that function
anymore, and if so, whether you have other items which already perform it, too,
like both a CD player and a computer that plays CDs. Maybe the
item is not even worth having anymore, much less repairing. Check the cost of repairs vs. buying new. You may save both space AND electricity. I’m not a big fan of “planned obsolescence”
but particularly for audio/visual devices, new prices have dropped even as
quality has improved to such a point that many older items cost more to run and
repair than to replace with something better. My new notebook computer ($400) draws much
less power, has much more memory, and has much better built in speakers, than
previous laptops. I bought a pair of
mini-speakers (for the room) for about $29 and gave away the bigger ones. Some
contemporary devices render obsolete whole categories of furniture. With small computers and big memories, maybe
you don’t need that designated office in the basement for all those filing
cabinets and prior bulky desktop computing equipment. Now you can sit in your favorite chair or
bed! If you have a flat TV, you don’t
need that armoire. Maybe with a Kindle,
you don’t need as many bookcases in your future. Because of “planned obsolescence,” the
Craig’s List prices of our non-razzle-dazzle color TVs were so low that we just
gave them away to families who didn’t need the latest and greatest upgrade. (We decided not to get another for ourselves
at all). Regarding other appliances, my
father-in-law found a $99 chest freezer and a $69 printer/scanner to replace
prior ones that no longer worked. Now
to dispose of those old items…
Save money for
something you value more:
Storage units in the US are doing a booming business,
primarily, I think, because they enable people to postpone decision making …
for a monthly fee. How much is your
indecisiveness worth to you? $2000? $10,000? My husband paid $200/mo for five years before
I put my foot down. His boy scout
uniform was in there, for goodness sake!
Rolls of 1970s upholstery fabric his mother never used. I promise you, it is a lot more appealing to
make decisions in your heated or air conditioned home with your favorite music
playing than in a depressing, dark, corrugated building. “Out of sight, out of mind” means “out of
your pocketbook,” too.
Larger homes tend to cost more than small ones, sometimes to
buy, and certainly to maintain and furnish.
How much of your home do you actually use? Do you spend 90% of your time
in three rooms: kitchen, bedroom, family
room? Do you always sit in one favorite
chair, and wear three favorite shirts? How many square feet do you really need? Shedding stuff you don’t wear and don’t use
can help you realize how much less you need. Have you ever
noticed how cleverly organized boats and RVs are? There is a lot you can do with a small,
versatile space. (See my blog articles
on furnishing and storage in tiny homes).
How much is a home of that smaller
size? What might you do with money you free
up in a smaller space?
I realized recently that my friends who travel least have
overwhelming mortgages. Maybe they are
homebodies or maybe they are held hostage by real estate costs. By contrast, almost every poorly paid
language teacher I ever knew, lived in an apartment during the school year and
traveled abroad all summer. Think about
what you want to do with your time and money.
What makes you happy?
Make Money (or not):
Hopin’ ain’t Gettin’:
Most people assume that their furniture and collectibles are more
valuable than others do. Is an
assumption of some relative’s sentiment or market value the reason you are
holding on to stuff? If so, it is time
for a reality check. Ask your relatives if
they want the china set for 12 or the old milk jug you picture for their future. If they don’t, consider selling them. Check websites, stores, consignment shops,
and auction houses that sell similar items.
You may be surprised by what people will buy, and what they won’t. Armed with this knowledge, move some items
along, for profit (or not).
Conclusion:
I realize that most readers are not contemplating as drastic
a downsize as I undertook to move to our little cabin in the woods, but I can indeed claim to have “walked the walk” not
just “talked the talk” in terms of proactively shedding stuff in advance of a
major life change.
I hope that this list of benefits helps you get
started! Please let me know how you do!
(See Part II, the helpful hints
section, for websites and other info).
The night I read your de-acquisitioning blog, I also thought about re-acquisitioning. By that I mean, I went up to attic, opened box with some wedding china. Original boxes!!! From 1993 marriage. I looked at it, again prompted by your blog, and thought "Man, this is absolutely gorgeous. If I had to choose it over again, I'd want exactly the same." Then I told myself, get this stuff out of the attic and start using it, you dummy. My breakthrough moment will bringing down one place setting. Maybe the next time I make myself a bagel, it'll be on Bernardaud china with an azur blue rim, gold trim and the most beautiful shade of white. - DSB Philadelphia, PA